Despite loving West Side Story and hiking as a kid, it took me a long time to realise I wasn't straight. Every coming out process is different, but for many of my sexually-fluid female friends and I, unwinding the internalised biphobia that told us there was nothing gay about wanting to kiss our school friend's cheek and stroke her hair while we talked about boys was a confusing process. Once we were ready to come out to ourselves and everyone else, many of us were already in our early twenties, far beyond the sloppy teenage years, with no experience navigating girl-on-girl sexual tension. Which left us with a lot of questions in the gay bar: what if she thinks I'm straight? What if she's just being friendly? How do I… kiss her?

Your first time having lesbian sex , or girl-on-girl slash vulva-on-vulva sex, can be pretty nerve racking and daunting. No matter how confident you are, or how much lesbian porn you've watched which FYI, is not realistic AT ALL all vaginas are different and like to stimulated in different ways. So if you're in need of some tips on how to have sex with a girl or vulva-having person, here's what you need to know - from how to beat the nerves, to which lesbian sex positions to try. I know you're thinking,"How on earth will I know what to do?

Having sex for the first time can be a little nerve-racking, no matter who you are or who you want to have sex with. For example, they could identify as bisexual , pansexual, queer, or even heterosexual. It also includes other people who have vaginas, people with penises, and people with intersex genitalia. Heterosexual couples, for example, may have oral, manual, or penetrative sex.

Hey girl. I see you, crushing on your lesbian friend. Crushing on a woman can be amazing, and sexuality is fluid, so it's pretty common for anyone — no matter where they fall on the sexuality spectrum — to feel attraction toward someone of the same gender. Before you run up to her and confess your feelings, understand the following six things. Otherwise, you might risk ruining your friendship, or worse, really hurting your friend.